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Control of Self is a Primary Leadership Competency
“A man cannot directly choose his circumstances, but he can choose his thoughts, and so indirectly, yet surely, shape his circumstances.” – James Allen, As a Man Thinketh, also available as As a Woman Thinketh
Reading and studying Murray Bowen’s Family Systems Theory, guided by Roberta Gilbert for the last two years, I have learned volumes about control of self. Control of self begins with our thinking and our self awareness.
As high-functioning leaders, we impact the functioning of everyone we come in contact with because of our functioning. The Transformational Leader impacts others not by power of position, but with personal influence.
When the musical conductor does not get the intended results, the first step is to look in the mirror. The orchestra or choir responds to the director – good or bad. Many problems are directing problems. Many problems with the functioning of teams can be traced directly to the leader. When I struggle with team conflict or other conflict in the workplace, I must remember that this is a leadership skill, and begin to examine my own leadership.
I am constantly striving to be better at self-awareness and management of myself. I, then, impact others in a more profound and lasting way.
Today, I will be in charge of my emotions.
What about you? What will you do today to be a higher functioning leader?
The Transformational Leadership Strategist
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